These are from a wonderful book called The Art Of Comforting. Check it out and learn how to be better at supporting people going through difficult things.

can everybody and their brother read this, please?

This is really helpful. I always obsess about saying the right things to people, because I get hurt/annoyed when someone says something insensitive. 





When I was 17 my appendix ruptured because I thought I was just having period cramps and didn’t go to the hospital so don’t tell me PMS symptoms are no big deal

this actually happened to me during my math final and i didn’t think anything of it and when i was later admitted to the hospital my math prof was asking me ‘you didn’t have to take the final! why didn’t you tell me it hurt?!?!’ and i told him i’ve had cramps worse.

he gave me 100

This is actually an extremely common occurrence simply because in sex ed they don’t teach you how to tell the difference between menstrual cramps and other more serious pains. The way to tell the difference between cramps and appendicitis is that while menstrual cramps are generalized toward the middle of the stomach below the belly button, pain from a swollen or burst appendix will start in the middle of the stomach and relocate to only the lower right side, even lower than menstrual cramps, and is a very localized pain. It also comes on extremely suddenly and will worsen over time or when you make a sudden movement, like a cough or a sneeze.

Basically, if you’re feeling any sort of pain, even if it’s menstrual cramps, don’t hesitate to tell the school nurse or a parent, or if you’re out of school and home even make a doctor’s appointment. Chances are if your cramps are that bad there’s something they can do to improve that as well.

I am boosting the shit out of that reply, because I am twenty-fucking-five years old and did not know how to tell the two pains apart

(via merrnaids)

The grammatical answer to the question “how are you” is “well” and not “good”.

Despite knowing that, I always say “good/I am good”, even if I am not well.

Besides it being an easy, non-commital answer, it is also a lot more truthful than to say I am well.

I believe I am a good person. I am just not well. But I don’t want to tell you what is going on. And I don’t want to tell you that I don’t want to tell you what is wrong.

The crazy problems I create for myself.

I quit my job

So I tendered my resignation on Tuesday. It was probably the craziest thing I’d done lately, because I will be leaving without having another job offer.

Friends have done this before me, and I have told them how brave they were and how I didn’t think I could do the same. You need an equal amount of foolishness and courage to do that.
And yet, months on, I found myself in my boss’ office with a letter. It sounded crazy. I sounded crazy. Practical Nat just quitting, because she is burnt out and wants to find herself? And yet, it felt right.
I had been anxiously waiting for job offers. I have been so hung up on wanting to leave that I forgot to trust God.

Not trusting myself to have faith and wait, I decided to just jump into the ocean where I have no choice but to trust God to keep me buoyant.

Call me crazy. Call me foolish. But sometimes I just need a shove.

Whether I’ll be in between jobs or have found another place of employment, I will have to leave that to God.

I haven’t felt my heart beat this fast in such a long time.

My tummy was gurgling and the bubbles moving up through my throat as fits of giggles, making me light headed.

Cheeks flushed like a young girl in love, I couldn’t stop smiling.

Blame my reflex nervous reaction that got me in trouble several times.

It was the first time I have ever resigned. I have no idea what to do or how it was going to be.

I did it. I felt a little happy. But now, I am sad.

I will miss this place and all the people.
As for where I am headed next, only God will know. Getting my seat belt on.




you know you’re getting old when you watch the little mermaid and when ariel says “i’m 16 years old. i’m not a child anymore.” and you’re just sat there like yes you fucking are young lady stop it

The day you start agreeing with the parents in kids movies is the day it’s all over.

And I thought I was the only one. I was nodding my head when Sebastian was giving parenting advice. 

(via audreyii-fic)

What seem our worst prayers may really be, in God’s eyes, our best. Those, I mean, which are least supported by devotional feeling. For these may come from a deeper level than feeling. God sometimes seems to speak to us most intimately when he catches us, as it were, off our guard.


Meet Cory Nieves. He’s a dapper, 10-year old CEO of Mr. Cory’s Cookies who started his own booming cookie business in an effort to help his mom buy a car after moving from NYC to New Jersey in 2009.

awww… he is so adorable. 

(via goldanddust)

How do you mend a relationship you walked out on?

How do you fix something you’ve broken?

How do you prevent yourself from making the same mistake again?

How do you go back to the past?

Maybe it is like that Switchfoot song, forgiveness is right where I fell.

Maybe it is just me and my foolish pride and crazy sense of justice.

Maybe you had been showing me all along that it is okay.

Maybe you have been trying to teach me that relationships are made of sturdier stuff.

Maybe all I had to was come.

sunvapor: What the fucks happening in Ferguson?


Alright, i’m gonna sit down and basically explain the situation in this ask so everyone of my followers knows why i’m so pissed.

Michael Brown, a 17 - 18 year old african american boy was unlawfully shot (8-10 times supposedly) by police in St Louis, Missouri on saturday, august 9th, 2014. He was unarmed, and had done nothing to attract suspicion other than the fact that he was black. His body was left in the street for 4 hours. (EDIT: i’ve discovered that the Brown family wishes for any and all photos of Michael lying in the streets to be removed. please respect this and do so)

There are several claims from witnesses (see: Dorian Johnson’s account and video [HIGHLY RECOMMEND READING UP ON HIS ACCOUNT, ITS VERY SPECIFIC] — Brown’s friend who experienced the situation first hand, La’Toya Cash and Phillip Walker— Ferguson residents nearby the incident),  that fall together in generally close claims. However, the only one who’s claim seems out of place is the police officer’s who shot Brown. Who, by the way, is put off on paid administrative leave AND who’s name remained under anonymity for his safety (However, attorney Benjamin Crump is looking for a way to force release his name). He claims that Brown began to wrestle the officer for his gun and tried attacking him after he told Brown and his friend Dorian Johnson (22) to “get the f*ck on the sidewalk”.

According to Johnson, after a minor confrontation on the officer’s part where he grabbed Brown by the neck and then by the shirt, the officer pulled his gun on Brown and shot him at point blank range on the right side of his body. Brown and Johnson were able to get away briefly and started running. However, Brown was shot in the back, supposedly disabling him from getting very far. He turned around with his arms in the air and said “I don’t have a gun, stop shooting!” By this point, Brown and the officer were face to face as the cop shot him several times in the face and chest until he was finally dead. Johnson ran to his apartment and by the sound of his account, seemingly had some sort of panic attack. Later he emerged from his home to see Brown still laying in the streets. People were gathered with their cellphones, screaming at the police.

According to msnbc, the police refuse to interview Johnson at all, despite his amazing courage to come forward. They didn’t wanna hear it. They only listened to the cop’s account of it all and were vague with the media on what they thought happened. They’ve also refused to commit to a timeline in releasing autopsy results and other investigation information.

Numerous rumors are sweeping around such as Brown stealing candy from a QuickTrip, the store he emerged from calling the cops on him, Brown reaching for a gun, Brown attacking the cop first, ect. But these have all been debunked. (I know a lot of these have been debunked, but im having a hard time finding sources. if anyone could help out and link some legit ones id be SO grateful)

The event in and of itself was terrible, but now it has escalated beyond belief. Around 100 or more people, mostly black, went to the police station to protest peacefully. Things quickly turned bad as martial law got involved and authorities were bringing in K9s, tanks, heavy artillery, ect. The heavy police presence only made things worse as riots began to break out and looting and vandalism started. [ x ] [ x ] [ x ]

Now, as of very recently, the media has been banned from Ferguson. There is also a No-Fly zone above Ferguson for the reason of “ TO PROVIDE A SAFE ENVIRONMENT FOR LAW ENFORCEMENT ACTIVITIES ” as said on the Federal Aviation Commission’s website. Cop cars are lined up on the borders to prevent people from entering/leaving. Media outlets are being threatened with arrest. It completely violates our amendments and everything.

It’s becoming increasingly scary and difficult to find out whats going on over there. I’m afraid this is all the information I have, though. If anybody else knows anything about the situation, please feel free to add on or correct any mistakes i’ve made as i’m no expert on writing these things.

And as a personal favor, i’d really appreciate anyone to give this a reblog in order to spread the word. I think it’s a shame that this is going on in our own country yet so few people know about it. Help me make this topic huge and get this as much attention as possible.

It is 2014 and this is still happening